Coping, therapiers, tips... : Shame for gambling addiction: How do you deal with this shame? (Page 2)

Hammerdammer wrote on 10/25/2017 at 12:56 PM

TomWegas wrote on 25.10.2017 at 09:02: Just to make it clearer: I push it of course also no one unsolicited on the eye that I am addicted to gambling. It would also be strange to go to a bakery and tell the baker that you are a gambling addict without him asking. :- )

Wait a minute. You don't go to the baker and say: " Good day. I would like to have 3 rolls and I am a gambling addict"?

How can you live like that?

If I didn't say that to the mailman's face every day, I wouldn't dare leave the house.

This post has been translated automatically

TomWegas wrote on 10/25/2017 at 1:35 PM

Hammerdammer wrote on 10/25/2017 at 12:56 PM

TomWegas wrote on 10/25/2017 at 09:02: Just to make it clearer: I push it of course also no one unsolicited on the eye that I am addicted to gambling. It would also be strange to go to a bakery and tell the baker that you are a gambling addict without him asking. :- )

Wait a minute. You don't go to the baker and say: " Good day. I would like to have 3 rolls and I am a gambling addict"?

How can you live like that?

If I didn't say that to the mailman's face every day, I wouldn't dare leave the house.

Since I don't have a permanent residence at the moment, I fortunately don't have the problem with the mailman.

The bakers also change constantly and are in countries where I do not speak the local language, so it also fails because of the language barrier. It's enough that I have to explain them with hands and feet which baked goods I want... But tell someone in a bakery with hands and feet understandable that you are addicted to gambling, not so easy...:-P

This post has been translated automatically

TomWegas wrote on 10/24/2017 at 12:02 PM

Daniel wrote on 10/24/2017 at 11:18: Basically / in theory you are right (just stand by it and be honest). But in practice it is not so easy to implement. People care what other people think about you. And this is not so easy to train off

Of course it is not easy but it is worth it. What is "not so easy" usually brings you more in life than the simple and fast way.

There will always be people who think you are a weirdo, a jerk or whatever (even without Gambling addiction that would be the case). The bigger problem is that you have a very bad opinion of yourself because of your gambling addiction and you don't want others to think about you the way you do partly because of your gambling addiction. But you are more than just your gambling addiction and other people will see that if they are in their right mind.

If someone attacks you because of your gambling addiction then that is their character weakness not yours. Your weakness is only the gambling addiction itself, you should accept that, only then you can work on the addiction so that you have some respect for yourself again.

This post has been translated automatically

Andrew789 wrote on 10/25/2017 at 11:15 PM

TomWegas wrote on 10/24/2017 at 12:02 PM

Daniel wrote on 10/24/2017 at 11:18 am: Basically / in theory you are right (just stand by it and be honest). But in practice it is not so easy to implement. People care what other people think about you. And this is not so easy to train off

Of course it is not easy but it is worth it. What is "not so easy" usually brings you more in life than the simple and fast way.

There will always be people who think you are a weirdo, a jerk or whatever (even without Gambling addiction that would be the case). The bigger problem is that you have a very bad opinion of yourself because of your gambling addiction and you don't want others to think about you the way you do partly because of your gambling addiction. But you are more than just your gambling addiction and other people will see that if they are in their right mind.

If someone attacks you because of your gambling addiction then that is their character weakness not yours. Your weakness is only the gambling addiction itself, you should accept that, only then you can work on the addiction so that you have some respect for yourself again.

Man man that sounds like from a psychologist. Not bad Do you do that professionally? In any case, well expressed!

I also deal with it very openly. Actually, always. Especially because at the beginning I was not even aware that it is something "bad". You didn't have any debts yet, you always won something, it was somehow even something cool. But with a few people I regret in retrospect that I was so open. They interpret it as a weakness on my part and tend to make fun of me. It's also not a good idea at work. By the way, I am completely Debt-free since a few weeks It was "only" a few hundred from the family and an overdrawn checking account, but it was still a shitty feeling. Now it's all sorted out and I was even able to put something aside. That's because of my current hot streak. Since there are the new Big-Time Gaming games on various sites, I play almost only those and win high more often (always in the same casino). Do you think the casino (even if it is reputable) will eventually say that you are banned because you only play the same games and thus win too often??? I think not, but you never know when you read that "chmi77" was banned simply because he deposited too much. They would certainly not have banned him if he had not won...

This post has been translated automatically

Avantgarde83 wrote on 10/25/2017 at 9:28 PM

Sorry if I ask "off-topic", I always find something like this interesting: without a permanent residence --> you travel around all the time or stay with friends sometimes here and there?

This post has been translated automatically

TomWegas wrote on 10/26/2017 at 12:17 PM

Avantgarde83 wrote on 10/25/2017 at 9:28 PM

Sorry if I ask "off-topic", I always find something like this interesting: without a permanent residence --> you travel around all the time or stay with friends sometimes here and there?

I gave away almost everything I owned and travel around with hand luggage. Rent me always what, so not with friends or so, because I would feel stupid, do not want to be anyone on the pocket...

Just live very minimalist and have no possessions except what I carry in hand luggage with me.

This post has been translated automatically

Andrew789 wrote on 10/25/2017 at 11:15 PM


Man man that sounds like from a psychologist. Not bad Do you do this for a living? Definitely well put!

This post has been translated automatically

This post has been translated automatically

Daniel wrote on 07/02/2018 at 19:06

Roflcopter1312 wrote on 02/07/2018 at 18:02: But I have to say playing has changed me somehow, I still play but it's different like in "old times" more controlled I would say.

Yes, with time (and after getting into shit 1 - 2 times) you kind of learn to play more controlled - for the most part at least. I've had that experience as well. When all the fun started, I didn't know any limits either and gambled the bank account mercilessly to 0 - from 30.000€ to 0€.

This post has been translated automatically