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18th Jul. 2019, at 10:25 pm CEST#11
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Hey my friend can understand you, what you can do now, talk to your boss and your sister try to find a solution with them search is a disease that can be cured and yes we all know that gambling is cool try to stop is hard, so build a team talk to your sister let your salary managed by someone like her or go bankrupt, no matter if little or much Debt it's about that you no longer have your money available
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Greetings
I went today first spontaneously in the home, took me until Monday off..friends and family see, discuss with them the issue and otherwise just get the head clear..I know, actually, everyone has more Debt that finances a car, but it is mainly about the short-term situation, the many reminders and the financial inability to respond paralyze me virtually.
Thanks to all who have replied to me
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19th Jul. 2019, at 01:46 am CEST#13
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Mark005 wrote on 07/18/2019 at 23:05: I just spontaneously went home today, took the day off until Monday..see friends and family, discuss the issue with them and otherwise just clear my head..I know actually everyone has more Debt that finances a car, but I'm mainly concerned with the short term situation, the many reminders and financial inability to respond just paralyze me....
Thanks to all who have replied to me
my post was not meant maliciously. But this is exactly what you need. These short term many reminders and the short term financial inability brings you in a thinking process. If now again someone helps you out of the patchsche, then that's it. Believe me, I speak from experience, do not accept any more help. You have to get out of it with discipline and logical thinking. See how much you can pay per month. Contact the creditors, try to arrange installments. If they give it to a collection company, then you pay the fking fees and agree with them on the payment. Mostly you only have to grit your teeth for 3 months and then you see land again.
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19th Jul. 2019, at 02:21 am CEST#14
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I am in a similar situation. Today I was once again at a point where the situation seemed hopeless...
Personally, I think the benefit of inpatient therapy is questionable for me, so this is not an option for now
I don't know what remains for me now.
Setting up automatic standing orders for monthly rent and fixed costs, etc. on the payroll account seems to be the only harm reduction. And maybe try to set up 60 minute phases without a cell phone to gamble in my free time. Half an hour will do if necessary.
But it still seems to be quite dreary with the realization. Even a game-free life will look different in the future. And please don't come to me now with things which are relevant in life and would replace gaming. Also the old hobbies will of course be helpful someday. And also relationship will help...but:
...to miss the chance to win money anytime and anywhere or to be able to win by random events I will never be able to represent.
..to miss the chance to win money anytime and anywhere or to be able to win by random events I will never be able to represent.
Hi, nice that you are so honest. I would still like to suggest you to take advantage of a psychologist or the like, possibly on an outpatient basis, weekly or however it may be best for you
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19th Jul. 2019, at 02:38 pm CEST#17
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Well, 2 years ago I had made an appointment with a Gambling addiction "expert" of the addiction counseling center. But told him that I would not actually seek help there anyway and remained with him so that I would contact me again if necessary.
But coercive measures are finally overdue with me. I would be happy if I could implement an automatic payment order for rent and internet every month. Or at least cigarettes and food until the end of the month if no fixed costs are paid. Wait actually only for the fact that again my whole wage is officially seized for the creditors and I have only the legal subsistence minimum for the PSC's.
Only today again shortly after midnight 5€ RestPSCGuthaben deposited and ne hour later 300€ Auszahlung executed. As was to be expected, the payout has now been canceled reatlos and on 0.00 € account balance sovereign runtergebuttert. The quite normal madness thus. Sounds exaggerated, but is so. daily business just
Evening folks,
I just try to write a little bit now and then, how the days were, how I feel..this helps me to reflect a little bit, maybe someone is interested.
I had a great day at home today, no gambling at all, no thoughts of gambling at all. Life could be like this every day, why isn't it? This day cost me a total of 8 euros, do I need more? No, not really...and yet my mind says, as soon as I arrive back home: Yes, you do! You need more, you have to pay your debts, you have to go on nice vacations and oh yes, you also need a laptop and a new TV.
Why can being with friends as opposed to being alone make such an incredible difference in your mindset?
I'm at a point where I know 100% that I won't win because I wouldn't pay out even 20k, I'd want 40k. I'm not kidding myself and yet...somehow I already do by my head telling me it's worth a try....
Mark005 wrote on 07/19/2019 at 8:31 pm: Evening folks,
I just try to write a little bit every now and then, how the days were, how I feel..this helps me to reflect a little bit, maybe someone is interested.
I had a great day at home today, no gambling at all, no thoughts of gambling at all. Life could be like this every day, why isn't it? This day cost me a total of 8 euros, do I need more? No, not really...and yet my mind says, as soon as I arrive back home: Yes, you do! You need more, you have to pay your debts, you have to go on nice vacations and oh yes, you also need a laptop and a new TV.
Why can being with friends as opposed to being alone make such an incredible difference in your mindset?
I'm at a point where I know 100% that I won't win because I wouldn't pay out even 20k, I'd want 40k. I'm not kidding myself and yet...somehow I already do by my head telling me it's worth a try....
Together it is easier because you are distracted and have a kind of help by the presence of the others. It is important for you now to get an overview financially, how do you pay it off and how do you proceed overall. For this purpose, it is advisable to first concentrate the repayment on the overdraft facility and if the loan should charge more than 5% interest, it is advisable to reschedule the Debt at the current time. With some restrictions you could pay off the loan quite quickly in 1-3 years. Time goes by like nothing, meanwhile you don't even feel that bad.
The problem for you is that you have to prove that you can control your Gambling addiction by not gambling anymore. It's possible that no bank will offer this at first, but if you haven't gambled for a few months, the whole thing should look a little better (even if they don't come running with the red carpet).
You don't need to be ashamed, you are not the first one with such a problem. Unexpectedly you fall into a hole, it's possible that 1-2 months ago it looked almost too rosy and suddenly you are in this situation. You would never have thought of yourself, you could say.
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21st Jul. 2019, at 04:40 pm CEST#20
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...Well, maybe someone should take away your phone so you can't gamble anymore.
You need as much distraction as possible, so that you no longer think about gambling at all. Go out a lot with friends, or go to the pool, etc..
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Good luck on your way
If you want to talk send me a PM
Greetings
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Thanks to all who have replied to me
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my post was not meant maliciously. But this is exactly what you need. These short term many reminders and the short term financial inability brings you in a thinking process. If now again someone helps you out of the patchsche, then that's it. Believe me, I speak from experience, do not accept any more help. You have to get out of it with discipline and logical thinking. See how much you can pay per month. Contact the creditors, try to arrange installments. If they give it to a collection company, then you pay the fking fees and agree with them on the payment. Mostly you only have to grit your teeth for 3 months and then you see land again.
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Personally, I think the benefit of inpatient therapy is questionable for me, so this is not an option for now
I don't know what remains for me now.
Setting up automatic standing orders for monthly rent and fixed costs, etc. on the payroll account seems to be the only harm reduction. And maybe try to set up 60 minute phases without a cell phone to gamble in my free time. Half an hour will do if necessary.
But it still seems to be quite dreary with the realization. Even a game-free life will look different in the future. And please don't come to me now with things which are relevant in life and would replace gaming. Also the old hobbies will of course be helpful someday. And also relationship will help...but:
...to miss the chance to win money anytime and anywhere or to be able to win by random events I will never be able to represent.
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Have somehow learned the wrong profession ?
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Hi, nice that you are so honest. I would still like to suggest you to take advantage of a psychologist or the like, possibly on an outpatient basis, weekly or however it may be best for you
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But coercive measures are finally overdue with me. I would be happy if I could implement an automatic payment order for rent and internet every month. Or at least cigarettes and food until the end of the month if no fixed costs are paid. Wait actually only for the fact that again my whole wage is officially seized for the creditors and I have only the legal subsistence minimum for the PSC's.
Only today again shortly after midnight 5€ RestPSCGuthaben deposited and ne hour later 300€ Auszahlung executed. As was to be expected, the payout has now been canceled reatlos and on 0.00 € account balance sovereign runtergebuttert. The quite normal madness thus. Sounds exaggerated, but is so. daily business just
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I see no way out
Nobody has liked this post so far
I just try to write a little bit now and then, how the days were, how I feel..this helps me to reflect a little bit, maybe someone is interested.
I had a great day at home today, no gambling at all, no thoughts of gambling at all. Life could be like this every day, why isn't it? This day cost me a total of 8 euros, do I need more? No, not really...and yet my mind says, as soon as I arrive back home: Yes, you do! You need more, you have to pay your debts, you have to go on nice vacations and oh yes, you also need a laptop and a new TV.
Why can being with friends as opposed to being alone make such an incredible difference in your mindset?
I'm at a point where I know 100% that I won't win because I wouldn't pay out even 20k, I'd want 40k. I'm not kidding myself and yet...somehow I already do by my head telling me it's worth a try....
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I see no way out
Nobody has liked this post so far
Together it is easier because you are distracted and have a kind of help by the presence of the others. It is important for you now to get an overview financially, how do you pay it off and how do you proceed overall. For this purpose, it is advisable to first concentrate the repayment on the overdraft facility and if the loan should charge more than 5% interest, it is advisable to reschedule the Debt at the current time. With some restrictions you could pay off the loan quite quickly in 1-3 years. Time goes by like nothing, meanwhile you don't even feel that bad.
The problem for you is that you have to prove that you can control your Gambling addiction by not gambling anymore. It's possible that no bank will offer this at first, but if you haven't gambled for a few months, the whole thing should look a little better (even if they don't come running with the red carpet).
You don't need to be ashamed, you are not the first one with such a problem. Unexpectedly you fall into a hole, it's possible that 1-2 months ago it looked almost too rosy and suddenly you are in this situation. You would never have thought of yourself, you could say.
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You need as much distraction as possible, so that you no longer think about gambling at all. Go out a lot with friends, or go to the pool, etc..
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