Gambling addiction in general: Gambling addiction - relapse - and now the therapy ? (Page 3)

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Oldschool1995 wrote on 19/01/2021 at 21:46

Hi Goeki72,


Thank you very much for your reply

Find I now personally awesome that you see that so that it would not Zielführend.

I mean, just after so long playing time I am for the first time in the hands of an expert, who in my opinion has brought good arguments to my addiction, and probably has a lot of experience on this issue.

What exactly you mean by the solution of going full blast like on Jesus film, I honestly can't understand. Maybe you can explain it to me in more detail

To the solution with the partner, I do not think it would make sense to look for a partner only because she is very dominant, but I can of course also be wrong, that's just my opinion

So to speak, I live for a good month quite normal without playing, and I feel no urge to look for me a way to play, because opportunities, so it has shown the past - there is ALWAYS, if you specifically looking for it, BUT, no I do not want that anymore.

I also find it amazing that so many advise that I should live with my addiction and just control it and try low stakes/limits that don't hurt me financially.

But I think to myself, apart from the financial damage that this would entail, even if it would be "only" 100€ a month (compared to the previously mentioned losses) it is exactly what makes a cure impossible

I want to get on the path to never gambling again, and to gain complete control over it, if I had the financial means/freedoms to do so again, you know what I mean?


MfG

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Oldschool1995 wrote on 19/01/2021 at 02:47: Hello zsm,

Thanks in advance to those who take the time to read my post,

and help me in the form of advice.

About my person,

I, a normal (gambling addict) young man, who is 25 years old and has completed school - training,
and has had a permanent job for almost 8 years, since I was taken on there after my training.
It is quasi everything very well with me, just to perfect ... if there would not be the gambling addiction...


My problem is the following, I am highly addicted to gambling, and now write here for the first time in such a forum a contribution

I play since I am 17 years old, at the beginning in normal gambling houses, with initially small stakes 10-20 cents,
also always with a friend... at first it was all fun and it kept within limits.

There would be so much to write here what I happened in the last 8 years, but I think that would go far beyond the scope,
so I'll try to be as brief as possible.

So as you know, I gamble since my 17th year of life almost every month my salary, but afford me during this time but also other things, such as cigarettes, and go every weekend to party, for which my money was always enough. That was because I earned and earn relatively well, and I do not have to pay rent, because I live with my parents.

This all went reasonably well, until I was then trained and then earned very good money (initially just under 2k, and at some point Stand now about 3500€.

And the more I earned, the more uncontrolled my gambling became, then I was 20 years old,

i then began to play in online casino, with soccer betting, online Poker etc.. and bang at once I also took my first loan!

The loan was then relatively quickly gambled away and more followed... at some point the whole thing blew up, because of course I could no longer lift the rates at some point and the reminders piled up at home, (not because I earned too little money to repay, but because I have gambled away every month anew my salary).

At some point I involved my parents, and they paid back the loans for me. (Total 30 thousand in about).

then followed a few gambling-free months, then it went on again with the gambling!

Now I skip a few more years, because it contains the usual procedure of a gambling addict, everything gambled away - again loans taken - family stolen, easily criminal with eg things sell on Ebay you do not own, (Quasi loan money) as soon as I had money again or the salary came I have then immediately paid back the money (was the intention from the beginning if I do not win with the (faked money) so the whole thing went well for a relatively long time.

Then with 24 years the first waking up, I was finished with my life, the work has never suffered from it, but otherwise I spent most of the time locked up in my room,
at some point my brother noticed that too. I now talked completely openly about everything for the first time in my life (gambling addiction - what all happened, and of course the loans..

I lied to everyone for so long, and delayed (credit installments) until nothing more went... my 3-4 next monthly salaries were virtually used up for a very long time, although I did not have them yet... , I was then helped again, in total just under 100k, which my family has served. A small remaining sum of about 20k was left open to me, which was also very good, and so I agreed from Fort an every month a thousand euros from my salary immediately after Lohnhalt to pay off, my brother has the whole then controlled with me, in the form of account statements... unfortunately, my addiction did not last long and I was looking for ways to circumvent how I can in the form of cash withdrawals over weeks, to drive then again with a large sum (1-2k) in casino...etc.

The whole thing went well now again 1 year, and I stood again before almost 10k Debt that had to be repaid immediately.

The relapse was perfect, I had thrown away a renewed paid new start ... or gambled.

I do not play now for 1 months, I can no longer access the salary, the control was handed over to the family.

I'm doing very well with it, I have no real desire to go somewhere to play, but maybe it's also because I have no money or only the most necessary daily provided for cigarettes and food at work, gas, etc..

I am now for the first time in my life in consultation with a Gambling addiction expert, who advises me very strongly to make an inpatient treatment because of my history, duration for this would be about 4 months. My employer is very accommodating and I also have a good position in the company, here and also within the family everyone is behind me without exception, I am sure. I am not completely averse to this inpatient treatment, BUT,

I know that I need help and indeed professional help, because I am very addicted to gambling, BUT, I do not want anyone to know about it, and 4 months is a very long time where you are not at home, and can do nothing with friends or in the work just completely missing!

I just don't want anyone outside my family to know that I'm a gambling addict (the topic is pretty low in society), I just want to be seen as a normal young man, and not as a gambling addict, you think I already know what I mean...

I have no problem to say openly within the family that I am a gambling addict, even my therapist knows all this about me.

My life story is of course very skipped, I tried to make it as short as possible,
if something is unclear, please ask me about it.

So to come to my question, do you think it is indispensable to do an inpatient treatment because of my life story?

I would prefer something like talking to the therapist twice a week to keep my life normal (friends, work, hobbies)
But what is your opinion? Does that still bring something in my situation? Or does only the drastic way about the stationary help?

I want to stop gambling in any case, but I also know how quickly one falls off the wagon.... do you have any experience with this?

Or can you give me tips that will help me to stand my addiction?


I am very grateful for any answer and for any advice!

MfG!

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