An incipient, if not already existing, gambling addiction....
4th Feb. 2020, at 03:19 am CET#1
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Hello people,
became aware of this forum here through the Google result " addicted to gambling, help" and would like to tell you my story.
About me: I am 25 years old, steady job, good income, currently in a relationship (I'll come back to it later).
I started gambling when I was 18-19. But really only small amounts to "earn" my 2nd beer in the pub. Was fun, was fun, the end.
Now, with 25 I came with my friends drunk on the idea to go to the local casino and gamble away some money, which was " surplus".
Made 450€ from 50€, financed the next club visit for the crew and good was.
Then, because I am also extremely lazy, I came across online casinos. And that was my biggest mistake
I deposited 50€ every now and then. Sometimes won, sometimes lost. However, I have two extremely big problems.
1. I can not lose.
2. Are wins like 200€ for me just peanuts, small cattle, increase the stake and good.
Then when I have a relaxing evening, Deposit 100€ and lose the money faster than my beer is drunk, I deposit another 100€.
If I lose the second amount, the rage begins with me. I think to myself " The bank must not and will not win." So I deposited another 100€, another 100€ and at some point 200,300,500€
I gained nothing but frustration and disappointment. I also always tend to tell my confidant ( my girlfriend) this right away. At first she laughed about it. "you could have just given the money to me, I would have a few more handbags" she said. In the meantime she is just angry and disappointed, because I tell her that I can stop at any time, but never did !
I have (fortunately) "only" about 4500€ gambled away within 4 months. 2000€ of this was saved for a slightly nicer vacation with her. Now I start with my account to debit, today again 500€ gambled away. Started again at 50€ and became in the end just the larger sum.
I do not know why I gamble. Financially I have no problems at the moment. But I notice that I am moving towards the abyss and slowly but surely become extremely addicted to gambling.
Do you have any tips? Whenever I gamble a larger amount (300-700€) that's it for me this month. When I see my salary on the account, I think, oh 50€ you can gamble away. In the end, the gambled sum is much higher
Most of the time the bank wins and that makes me so angry that I always deposit more to pay back the bank... how naive I always am. But it's kind of a rush. I don't think with anger and sadness. I just want to get back at the bank.
Right now I don't see myself as " ready to help" yet. I think that I can end this with a lot of diligence and motivation. It is extremely paradoxical to pay 200€ for a nice evening, then ask yourself if it is not too expensive... and on the same evening then easily deposit 500€ in the casino. I no longer have the value of money in sight and realize it only when I take 50€ in hand and think to myself: "People live on it for a week "
Meanwhile, my girlfriend knows nothing about it, I tell her nothing more. The Risk is too high that she would leave me, because I am no longer master of my senses and responsibilities that a relationship carries with it can maintain.
I'm just afraid of gambling everything away at some point, losing friends and family and getting into extreme debt. I can still afford it, but what will it look like at the end of the year? Or in the next weeks, months? I gambled away today, in one hour, an all-inclusive trip to another country, with flight and hotel, sun beach and sea. And I realize this just way too late !
An incipient, if not already existing, gambling addiction....
4th Feb. 2020, at 09:36 am CET#2
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if you do not understand that further deposits will not bring you back your lost money, I can only offer you my condolences and say welcome to the club.
you still have a great chance to get away with a black eye
An incipient, if not already existing, gambling addiction....
4th Feb. 2020, at 10:40 am CET#3
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I think that your fear is quite justified Mike - and similar to yours, a lot of suffering stories begin.
However, what you have before most is that you have recognized the danger of playing quite early.
But what also does not use if you write in return that you are not "ready to help".
Remember one thing,
Gambling addiction is an ever-progressing process - and similar to a drug it requires more and more addictive substances so that you can satisfy your addiction.
At the end many wish: never to have started gambling and secondly, an early farewell from this globe.
Let me give you a hint,
go to an addiction counseling center or join a self-help group for gambling addicts,
on the one hand you will learn there how your life as a gambler could look like (mostly you will find gamblers who have played themselves pretty far down at the bottom) ... and on the other hand how you can still lead a life worth living with this addiction.
And remember, the day when you will play your last game, that will certainly come,
as will the day you seek help, but the sooner the better
All the best for you on your way.
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An incipient, if not already existing, gambling addiction....
4th Feb. 2020, at 10:57 am CET#4
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ahoy,
tips & tricks & suggestion: get involved in a simple deal. you just stop. you decide the day and time (but it should be within the next 10 days). every evening you post a status update here (only the basics. played yes / no. a sentence about the emotional situation. mini-protocol so to speak.) if you can really stop and just needed an additional impulse from outside, this will help you to actually start to stop
if you can't, at least you know that you are ready to help and have to act accordingly.
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An incipient, if not already existing, gambling addiction....
4th Feb. 2020, at 11:05 am CET#5
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p.s.: I personally think that you don't always have to cope with everything on your own, and even if the worst-case scenario doesn't occur, a capable professional conversation partner belongs to the category of self-care
and even if the worst-case scenario does not occur, a capable professional conversation partner belongs to the category of self-care
An incipient, if not already existing, gambling addiction....
4th Feb. 2020, at 01:42 pm CET#6
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LazMaz wrote on 04/02/2020 at 03:19: Hi guys,
got aware of this forum here through the google result " addicted to gambling, help" and would tell you my story.
About me: I'm 25 years old, steady job, good income, currently in a relationship (I'll come back to it later).
I started gambling when I was 18-19. But really only small amounts to "earn" my 2nd beer in the pub. Was fun, was fun, the end.
Now, with 25 I came with my friends drunk on the idea to go to the local casino and gamble away some money, which was " surplus".
Made 450€ from 50€, financed the next club visit for the crew and good was.
Then, because I am also extremely lazy, I came across online casinos. And that was my biggest mistake
I deposited 50€ every now and then. Sometimes won, sometimes lost. However, I have two extremely big problems.
1. I can not lose.
2. Are wins like 200€ for me just peanuts, small cattle, increase the stake and good.
Then when I have a relaxing evening, Deposit 100€ and lose the money faster than my beer is drunk, I deposit another 100€.
If I lose the second amount, the rage begins with me. I think to myself " The bank must not and will not win." So I put in another 100€, another 100€ and eventually 200,300,500€
I gained nothing but frustration and disappointment. I also always tend to tell my confidant ( my girlfriend) this right away. At first she laughed about it. "you could have just given the money to me, I would have a few more handbags" she said. Meanwhile, she is just angry and disappointed, because I tell her that I can stop at any time, but never did !
I have (fortunately) "only" about 4500€ gambled away within 4 months. 2000€ of this was saved for a slightly nicer vacation with her. Now I start with my account to debit, today again 500€ gambled away. Started again at 50€ and became in the end just the larger sum.
I do not know why I gamble. Financially I have no problems at the moment. But I notice that I am moving towards the abyss and slowly but surely become extremely addicted to gambling.
Do you have any tips? Whenever I gamble a larger amount (300-700€) that's it for me this month. When I see my salary on the account, I think, oh 50€ you can gamble away. In the end, the gambled sum is much higher
Most of the time the bank wins and that makes me so angry that I always deposit more to pay back the bank... how naive I always am. But it's kind of a rush. I don't think with anger and sadness. I just want to get back at the bank.
Right now I don't see myself as " ready to help" yet. I think that I can end this with a lot of diligence and motivation. It is extremely paradoxical to pay 200€ for a nice evening, then ask myself if it is not too expensive... and on the same evening then easily deposit 500€ in the casino. I no longer have the value of money in sight and realize it only when I take 50€ in hand and think to myself: "People live on it for a week "
Meanwhile, my girlfriend knows nothing about it, I tell her nothing more. The Risk is too high that she would leave me, because I am no longer master of my senses and responsibilities that a relationship carries with it can maintain.
I'm just afraid of gambling everything away at some point, losing friends and family and getting into extreme debt. I can still afford it, but what will it look like at the end of the year? Or in the next weeks, months? I gambled away today, in one hour, an all-inclusive trip to another country, with flight and hotel, sun beach and sea. And I realize this just way too late !
I ask for tips and help !
Best regards
Mike !
As long as you can afford it, you think you have everything under control. But it goes faster than you think. Even if you win a large amount and temporarily beat the bank, you will most likely want more. It's always the same pattern with gambling addiction. Read my post in the forum, maybe it can help you, otherwise all the best!
An incipient, if not already existing, gambling addiction....
4th Feb. 2020, at 04:37 pm CET#7
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Hello LazMaz welcome to the forum
I can only advise you to be aware of the thought that you will never pay home to the bank even if the scenario should happen that you are in 1-2 casinos for a long time in the plus (which is quite realistic) the casino / bank will only laugh about it because they make their revenue anyway
You are like all of us a fish in a big sea
The same with VIP programs I'm at sunmaker and Wildz on the VIP stand earlier as all this was still new and great for me I had a good feeling about it now I know that I have only left enough money in the stores which I could have invested more sensibly
Gambling you can do but it can get out of hand very quickly as with everything in life you have to use it wisely
An incipient, if not already existing, gambling addiction....
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became aware of this forum here through the Google result " addicted to gambling, help" and would like to tell you my story.
About me: I am 25 years old, steady job, good income, currently in a relationship (I'll come back to it later).
I started gambling when I was 18-19. But really only small amounts to "earn" my 2nd beer in the pub. Was fun, was fun, the end.
Now, with 25 I came with my friends drunk on the idea to go to the local casino and gamble away some money, which was " surplus".
Made 450€ from 50€, financed the next club visit for the crew and good was.
Then, because I am also extremely lazy, I came across online casinos. And that was my biggest mistake
I deposited 50€ every now and then. Sometimes won, sometimes lost. However, I have two extremely big problems.
1. I can not lose.
2. Are wins like 200€ for me just peanuts, small cattle, increase the stake and good.
Then when I have a relaxing evening, Deposit 100€ and lose the money faster than my beer is drunk, I deposit another 100€.
If I lose the second amount, the rage begins with me. I think to myself " The bank must not and will not win." So I deposited another 100€, another 100€ and at some point 200,300,500€
I gained nothing but frustration and disappointment. I also always tend to tell my confidant ( my girlfriend) this right away. At first she laughed about it. "you could have just given the money to me, I would have a few more handbags" she said. In the meantime she is just angry and disappointed, because I tell her that I can stop at any time, but never did !
I have (fortunately) "only" about 4500€ gambled away within 4 months. 2000€ of this was saved for a slightly nicer vacation with her. Now I start with my account to debit, today again 500€ gambled away. Started again at 50€ and became in the end just the larger sum.
I do not know why I gamble. Financially I have no problems at the moment. But I notice that I am moving towards the abyss and slowly but surely become extremely addicted to gambling.
Do you have any tips? Whenever I gamble a larger amount (300-700€) that's it for me this month. When I see my salary on the account, I think, oh 50€ you can gamble away. In the end, the gambled sum is much higher
Most of the time the bank wins and that makes me so angry that I always deposit more to pay back the bank... how naive I always am. But it's kind of a rush. I don't think with anger and sadness. I just want to get back at the bank.
Right now I don't see myself as " ready to help" yet. I think that I can end this with a lot of diligence and motivation. It is extremely paradoxical to pay 200€ for a nice evening, then ask yourself if it is not too expensive... and on the same evening then easily deposit 500€ in the casino. I no longer have the value of money in sight and realize it only when I take 50€ in hand and think to myself: "People live on it for a week "
Meanwhile, my girlfriend knows nothing about it, I tell her nothing more. The Risk is too high that she would leave me, because I am no longer master of my senses and responsibilities that a relationship carries with it can maintain.
I'm just afraid of gambling everything away at some point, losing friends and family and getting into extreme debt. I can still afford it, but what will it look like at the end of the year? Or in the next weeks, months? I gambled away today, in one hour, an all-inclusive trip to another country, with flight and hotel, sun beach and sea. And I realize this just way too late !
I ask for tips and help !
Best regards
Mike !
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An incipient, if not already existing, gambling addiction....
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you still have a great chance to get away with a black eye
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An incipient, if not already existing, gambling addiction....
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However, what you have before most is that you have recognized the danger of playing quite early.
But what also does not use if you write in return that you are not "ready to help".
Remember one thing,
Gambling addiction is an ever-progressing process - and similar to a drug it requires more and more addictive substances so that you can satisfy your addiction.
At the end many wish: never to have started gambling and secondly, an early farewell from this globe.
Let me give you a hint,
go to an addiction counseling center or join a self-help group for gambling addicts,
on the one hand you will learn there how your life as a gambler could look like (mostly you will find gamblers who have played themselves pretty far down at the bottom) ... and on the other hand how you can still lead a life worth living with this addiction.
And remember, the day when you will play your last game, that will certainly come,
as will the day you seek help, but the sooner the better
All the best for you on your way.
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An incipient, if not already existing, gambling addiction....
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tips & tricks & suggestion: get involved in a simple deal. you just stop. you decide the day and time (but it should be within the next 10 days). every evening you post a status update here (only the basics. played yes / no. a sentence about the emotional situation. mini-protocol so to speak.) if you can really stop and just needed an additional impulse from outside, this will help you to actually start to stop
if you can't, at least you know that you are ready to help and have to act accordingly.
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An incipient, if not already existing, gambling addiction....
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and even if the worst-case scenario does not occur, a capable professional conversation partner belongs to the category of self-care
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An incipient, if not already existing, gambling addiction....
Nobody has liked this post so far
As long as you can afford it, you think you have everything under control. But it goes faster than you think. Even if you win a large amount and temporarily beat the bank, you will most likely want more. It's always the same pattern with gambling addiction. Read my post in the forum, maybe it can help you, otherwise all the best!
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An incipient, if not already existing, gambling addiction....
Nobody has liked this post so far
I can only advise you to be aware of the thought that you will never pay home to the bank even if the scenario should happen that you are in 1-2 casinos for a long time in the plus (which is quite realistic) the casino / bank will only laugh about it because they make their revenue anyway
You are like all of us a fish in a big sea
The same with VIP programs I'm at sunmaker and Wildz on the VIP stand earlier as all this was still new and great for me I had a good feeling about it now I know that I have only left enough money in the stores which I could have invested more sensibly
Gambling you can do but it can get out of hand very quickly as with everything in life you have to use it wisely
all the best to you
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